I older men are just looking for a good time or notch on their belt. Whether that's a mature twenty-something, an immature thirty-something, or a quirky lady living with three dudes like Jess.
The truth is that age is not just a number, says Seth Meyers, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of “While there are always exceptions to rules, a good rule to remember is that dating someone more than 10 years older will present challenges now or later that add to the preexisting challenges any relationship has,” he says.Are you dating an older fellow or thinking about dipping your toes into that more mature water? Or, in Jess's (Zooey Deschanel's character, for those of you who aren't fans yet) case, don't ask about his health: "How's your prostate? Our bodies are decaying."DO relish in the fact that guys get better looking with age, but you'll always be the hot, younger girlfriend.Well, my dears, you've come to the right place. DON' T complain about turning "halfway to 50" when he's "one year til 30".Russell confesses he hasn't dated since 1989 and Jess replies, "That was the year I learned to use the toaster by myself." Not so hot.
DO be lovey dovey, but DON' T nickname him something based on his age (Fancypants is cool, though).I felt an immediate spark, and after we exchanged numbers, we planned our first date without ever bringing up our ages.A week later, somewhere between one and four glasses of wine, he told me I looked “quite young” and asked how old I was.“I’m 25,” I said, trying to seem proud of the number even though I’d just celebrated this birthday with a bit of dread about growing up.He nodded in surprise and didn’t offer his age until I asked for it. Then he excused himself to the go to the bathroom while I sat wondering what this number meant: Would he want to move faster in a relationship? Would he be appalled by my tiny studio apartment, which I could barely afford?“You’ll never guess,” he said, which is when I tried to examine his face for wrinkles and his hair for salt-and-pepper grays—but there weren’t any.“I’m 38,” he said. “So I know what you’re thinking,” he said, upon returning. ” He launched into an explanation about not finding the right woman yet and managed to quell all of my concerns—at least for the time being.Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!