We continued to date until, eventually, our lifestyles proved drastically different.
His career and financial situations were a far cry from mine, and the idea of things getting serious felt rushed and scary to me.
Meyers says that people often set overly rigid limitations when it comes to age.“The unhealthy individual either has a type that is too specific and narrow (I want someone between 30 and 35 who loves the outdoors, is really close to his parents and siblings) or, conversely, too broad and vague (I just want someone nice),” Meyers says.
Keep in mind that huge age differences can present a variety of problems.
Depending on your state, you may be under the age of consent — the age that legally determines how old you can be to agree to have sex.
It was ultimately the right call, I felt, and experts seem to agree.
The truth is that age is not just a number, says Seth Meyers, Ph.
A week later, somewhere between one and four glasses of wine, he told me I looked “quite young” and asked how old I was.“I’m 25,” I said, trying to seem proud of the number even though I’d just celebrated this birthday with a bit of dread about growing up.
He nodded in surprise and didn’t offer his age until I asked for it. Then he excused himself to the go to the bathroom while I sat wondering what this number meant: Would he want to move faster in a relationship? Would he be appalled by my tiny studio apartment, which I could barely afford?“You’ll never guess,” he said, which is when I tried to examine his face for wrinkles and his hair for salt-and-pepper grays—but there weren’t any.“I’m 38,” he said. “So I know what you’re thinking,” he said, upon returning. ” He launched into an explanation about not finding the right woman yet and managed to quell all of my concerns—at least for the time being.I continued to find myself smitten, gushing to my mom about him, telling her that 13 years wasn’t that big of an age difference because we got along so well and it just didn’t matter.Make Sure the Connection Is Strong A strong connection is what keeps relationships going.With an age difference, you should make sure the connection is there early on and that both people feel it. Make sure you each can understand where the other is in life.He was closer to 40 than I was to 30, and I felt like he’d inevitably want marriage and children much sooner than I would.