At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?Okay, I’m gonna let you in on something that very few women know.
The guy, if he hasn’t already, starts talking about how he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for some reason.
the guy change his mind if you’re going to stick around regardless of whether or not you’re in an explicitly committed, exclusive relationship?
So from his perspective, this is a perfect situation: He still gets to be technically single but also has your ongoing exclusive commitment, sex, and companionship. So if he starts feeling pressure from you for him to get into a relationship with him, he’s going to pull back… It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…
Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!
I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).
When both of you are convinced that you like each other, you can both “drop the mask” and start acting like yourself, fully.MORE: Signs He Doesn’t Want to Be With You He might give you some excuse as to why he can’t get into a relationship, but the excuse isn’t the part that matters.As I’ve said time and time again: When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you (for any reason), believe him! It makes me sad to see, but there are a lot of relationships I see where the guy is insecure and wants to make sure the woman likes him.He already knows you’re not going to go out with other guys.He already knows you have decided to be exclusive to him.The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.