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Why can’t people marry because there’s sexual chemistry AND they are well-suited to each other in temperament and other values AND it all comes together in a complete package that includes sex, kids, and life? Why can’t you grow in companionate love and the security of stability, and still find each other sexy and attractive?
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” Q&A, wherein a thirtysomething single female Marry Well-er gets an answer from Candice Watters.
(Longtime readers of my blog can probably tell you Candice Watters’ opinion on the topic, and my opinion of Candice Watters’ opinion on the topic.) Basically, the reader says she forwarded the infamous “Brother, You’re Like a Six” Boundless article to a single male friend whom she felt needed the ~advice, and he wrote her back a lengthy reply that basically reads like typical manospherian reasoning on the subjects of looks, chemistry, and attraction.
On average the emotional highs last between eighteen months and three years. If what he’s looking to hold his marriage together for “many, many, many years” is sexual attraction, he’s setting himself up for disappointment. When two believers come together in marriage, they have the potential, when the giddy feelings ebb, to leave what C. Lewis calls the “thrill” phase of romance for the “quieter and more lasting kind of interest …
The only way to keep the high-jinks of new love going is to keep starting over with new lovers. and happiness that follows.” He encourages this process, noting it is “one little part of what Christ meant by saying a thing will not really live unless it first dies.” What I do not understand is this churchian insistence that marrying out of sexual attraction is this zero-sum, either/or proposition, like either you marry because you want to BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG and do pretty much nothing else, or you marry because you’re pure and holy and mainly interested in doing taxes together and making sure your future children are raised in the faith, and the sex appeal is just sort of this little side bonus.Okay, that’s my paraphrase, but what other conclusion can one draw from a reply that begins thusly: If only it were that simple! Every marriage moves beyond the new-love, high-octane phase eventually, according to Psychologist Dorothy Tennov.Find a gorgeous woman (or man), marry her (or him), and live happily ever after. But movies always end before the fireworks (what your friend calls “zing-pop”) die down. The longest it can last is three years, and often it’s less.Are you a Catholic and only interested in meeting other Catholic singles for marriage?Then these are some well known dating services for you as 101 does not offer a Catholic only dating service for several reasons.I bookmarked the article a couple of years ago in anticipation of blogging about it, but did I ever get around to the blogging part?