Sometimes Ted has what he calls "big nights" when some girls give him "permission" to view them naked via a computer webcam.
Ted says he started with "innocent" chatting more than a year ago, shortly after he broke up with his girlfriend of four years, until he eventually found himself often visiting adult chat rooms.
Cybersexual activity can take many different forms: downloading sexually explicit pictures or stories, engaging in extensive explicit e-mail exchanges, viewing sexually explicit videos through pornographic sites, looking at or providing vastly changing images through a web cam, conversing in a sexually explicit chat room that may be a general room or a private one, and participating in instant communication with other web users for the purpose of sharing sexual fantasies, sometimes culminating in cybersex, phone sex, or an actual sexual encounter.5Cybersex has to be situated within the revolution which the Internet has brought about in sexuality.
Internet is changing patterns of social communication and interpersonal relationships.
The following is a summary of one of the cybersex stories featured in that series.1This is the story of Ted, 27 years old and single, who works as an information technology professional in Makati.
While most young urban professionals spend their Friday evenings "malling" and bar-hopping, Ted spends hours and hours dragging and clicking to his favorite chat rooms.
What experience does he have in this specialized sexual area? The first difficulty I tried to resolve by overcoming my own fears of what would unfold the moment I drag and click my mouse explicitly venturing into cybersexual encounters.
I had to assume pseudonyms and officially log myself in to enter sexual chat rooms and hunt for possible sexual chat mates.
That series gave a clear picture of how cybersex manifests itself in the country.
Though written some years ago, the insights there are still valid.
Cybersex encounters, says Ted, last 30 minutes, sometimes even an hour or two, depending on how long sex-chat mates want to extend their play.
There are instances when he does not do one-on-one encounters and just extensively flirts with multiple sex-chatters (some lead to "SOP" or sex on phone), lasting until the early morning.
Using pseudo names, he could be whatever he wants himself to be: a man, a woman, a teen-ager, a middle-aged person, an old man, etc.