" –Valeria Marquez, Facebook "Be okay with being by yourself.
Like how you're supposed to wait to text your crush back. Or do you hold out like the empowered sex-positive feminist icon you aspire to be? Which is why dating apps are great, except they can also be a pain in the ass and lead to the most lackluster first dates ever. Let's be real: Ghosting isn't as common as every thinkpiece on the internet makes it out to be.
Imagine how much easier dating would be if it wasn't such a big deal to tell someone how you actually feel! You don't want to date someone you work with because it will suck to have to see that person every day if and when you break up. He seemed so perfect on Bumble, but when you see him on Ok Cupid and realize you're only a 30 percent match, what do you do? Occasionally you end up going out with a really shitty coward who would rather pretend you don't exist instead of just dumping you.
Here are 12 things that become more important as you get older:1. Being able to comfortably use his shower without focusing on the mildew and beard shavings embedded along the edge of the tub is a pleasure no woman should EVER deny herself.2. If he writes off caring about he looks and actually thinks that wearing the same ill-fitting Levis for the past five years is cute, this man is a narrow-minded baby. Plus, nothing will make you madder than that same guy ordering the prix fixe at brunch when you’re the one covering the tab. Being able to count on his cooking skills (or at least his help in the kitchen). But the guys who never offer or half-heartedly do it for two minutes just so they can feel ok asking for a 20 minute blowjob are pretty much impossible to justify anymore. Because you have better things to do than worry about your boyfriend being on his phone when your BFF is talking to him or not at least offering to help your mom with the dishes (it doesn’t matter that you both know she’ll say no, just offer!
I will die on this hill: there is nothing hotter than a guy who greets you with grilled cheese when you get home late and skipped dinner.
When he says, "I'll see what you're up to later," does that mean you're definitely gonna hang and just haven't decided on the details?
Or does it mean "I don't want to chill unless I have nothing better to do"??Plus, striking up a conversation with a stranger at a bar is 6. Sure, things are better now than they were in the '50s when it comes to dating, but let's face it, dating is hard because not only do you have to navigate all your confusing, mushy feelings, but also because you have to deal with patriarchal bullshit all day every day always forever. They're a he was to have the pleasure of dating you? Nevertheless, the fear of being ghosted is real as hell and has us all quaking in our boots.Baby boomers might use this point as an example of Millennial narcissism, but admitting how great you are is just a part of exhibiting true self-awareness. Thank god for the screenshot, so your friends can help interpret WTF he means. Pretending to act "chill." The championing of "chill" — i.e.acting as blasé as possible — is some serious gobbledygook.And really, it's completely unfair that you'll never experience the joy of dating you: your hilarious late-night texts, the quirky way you prefer Hulu to Netflix, your gentle kisses and slightly less gentle hand jobs. Not knowing how to interact with each other on social media.