fossil dating for kids Dating a divorce with child

Even if your children express a positive interest in your dating life, it is best not to involve them.

It is also best not to go on a date with your children in tow.

This often happens when two divorced parents meet and have kids around the same age. If your children are friends, then allow them to continue that friendship and keep your dating activities to when you have a babysitter and are away from the kids.

Kids can build up fantasies of having their friend become their step brother or sister and this can cause them real emotional hurt if the adults’ relationship falls apart. Think of how awkward it would be if your relationship with the other parent fails and your kids are still friends.

These feelings may be scary and overwhelming for him.

Talk with your son about how your dating makes him feel.

As frustrating as this can be, your son's behavior is quite natural. If he's just gotten used to you and his father not being married, he might now fear that a stepparent will further complicate things and take up your time.

There's also the issue of territory — it's his house, you're his mom, this date is not his dad.

Letting daters know up front that you are a parent is the best policy.

It avoids painful rejection down the road and there are many other daters who will be more than willing to date a divorced parent.

Do listen to their concerns but judge yourself if they are reasonable and legitimate.

Many parents feel that having children can be a negative factor in dating.

Even if someone chooses not to date you because you are a parent, consider that a blessing.