Regardless, Emily still thinks if she brought a girl as a date to an event, and was dancing with her, she would "get some looks.""Since there are always new members and people I don't know well, I'd be coming out all over again to some people at an event that is meant to just be fun," she says.
Brooke, 23, thought she was straight when she joined Kappa Alpha Theta at Boston University."Without realizing it, I think I wound up exactly where I was supposed to," she says.
But when it comes to things such as taking your girlfriend to a formal instead of a more-often-seen boyfriend, the language used among sorority sisters — and behavior in response to bringing a queer date — may be less welcoming."I remember going to recruitment day one and I was legitimately the only person there in jeans and a jacket," says Jen, 24, who graduated from New York University in May 2016.
"Initially I wondered if I was going to be expected to perform a certain level of femininity to fit in."Jen joined Kappa Kappa Gamma.
Personally, I just don't see myself doing that."Besides the 26 Panhellenic sororities, the National Multicultural Greek Council, which is a council that oversees multicultural organizations on campuses, has its own selection of sororities and fraternities as well.
Gamma Rho Lambda is an MGC sorority founded in 2003 at Arizona State University for lesbian, bisexual, and transgender women.
She was out from initiation, and she felt safe and accepted by her chapter.
She brought women as dates to formals, even if her date wasn't too keen on attending.Once she came out when she was a student, Brooke was just excited to bring her girlfriend to formal.The only thing that made her feel different were pronoun usage at chapter, in which sisters referred to dates as men.She participated in a panel about being LGBTQ and part of Greek life, and that's how most of her sisters found out.They supported her right away."It was almost like, 'Oh you're gay?GRL (bonus points for the acronym) has 15 chapters across the United States, and five colonies (a colony is the initial stage to becoming a chapter).