They’re manipulative, intelligent, and will use every single one of your weaknesses against you. When she flakes on you, does she use a blatant lie as her excuse?
The presence of even three of these symptoms indicates a potentially harmful relationship.
Anything above this number points to not just probable, but certain harm.
Losers isolate their partners from their friends, colleagues and families.
They may do so through overt criticism and by following them around when they meet with others, as Drew did to Stacy.
As we’ve seen, Drew Peterson escalated the abuse of his partners.
He began with criticism, went on to name-calling and moved on to physical violence and (probably) murder. “The Loser,” Carver notes, “has very shallow emotions and connections with others.It’s nearly impossible to control strong human beings who have clear boundaries and a healthy self-esteem.This is why psychopaths eventually move from the initial over-the-top flattery to scathing criticism.It’s very important to get away from a Loser at the slightest hint of violence, including verbal aggression, since abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time. One of the things that might attract you to the Loser is how quickly he or she says ‘I Love You’ or wants to marry or commit to you.Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you.Carver begins by defining “the Loser”: “‘The Loser’ is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship…