Dayna serves as GO’s nightlife editor and loves to turn up at queer NYC bars & clubs.
She identifies as a dyke princess/Jenny Schecter fan-girl and lives on Long Island to be closer to her lash and spray tan technicians.
Because those are the things that are usually worth it. Unless you aren’t into shaving, which is fine by me, babe.
The girl that wants to stay single forever and masturbate my way through life to avoid human interaction, and the girl that thrives off of human connection and sex. And the old saying is true: you should do one thing every day that scares you.
On the other hand, meeting someone new can prompt feelings of curiosity and hope about positive possibilities.
Kashdan and Roberts (2006) then go on to show that focus (on anxiety or curiosity) determines how social situations are experienced.
Kashdan and Roberts (2006) conducted research on the tendency to feel both anxiety and curiosity in social interactions.
As the authors explain, "Unfamiliar [social] experiences evoke feelings of both anxiety, (due to conflicts with existing knowledge and feelings of low personal control), and curiosity, (due to a natural propensity for pursuing potential rewards and personal growth opportunities)".of going on a date sends me into an anxious spiral. Don’t be the girl frantically prepping for sex in the bar bathroom.I had the bright idea to ask women out right away on Tinder the other day, and as soon as I got an affirmative response, I sprinted to the bathroom*. As someone who loves all things black and spikey, but also loves all things pink and fluffy; who loves attention, but is painfully shy; who hates clinginess, but loves affection; who gets violently ill before the party, but thrives once I’m there; it only makes sense that I love dating, but it f*cking terrifies me. I’ve made this mistake before, thinking there is no way I’m going to have sex on the first date. Because at the end of the day, we’re all just horny dykes, darling. There are two ways that I have managed my crippling pre-date anxiety.A) Go out with a close friend before, somewhere close to your date.This is an excellent way to forget about how anxious you are, loosen up, and get some support.Through two experiments, they found that social anxiety did indeed contribute to negative feelings about social interactions.