The training and the missions and the executions of both are so deeply engrained in our service men and women that, I swear, the marrow in their bones is altered.And it wasn’t until I started living with and had a child with a veteran of the United States Military, that I realized that while he left the military years ago, the military cannot – and will not – leave him.
I realize that bad men are not specific to the military, it is just one of those professions that can really mold a person. What qualities/life choices/ etc do you think separate the good ones from the bad? If they gossip about their friends' wives/girfriends/SOs I would stay way.
Anyway, I've recently met a very nice guy, and now everyone around me including my parents are warning me and waiting for it all to blow up in my face. For some people the military is an extension of high school.
Most everyone are considered potential threats and the consistent vigilance he cannot help but display can become exhausting.
He won’t completely relax until he is back at home with his family, so big adventures to extravagant social functions are few and far between.
He refuses to have his back turned and is constantly on somewhat of a “look out”, even if he’s in the middle of a double bacon cheeseburger and a pint of delicious beer.
I’ve learned that being on time is necessary and absolutely expected.I’ve learned that we are so quick to say we care about our military members and military veterans, but that’s a heavy dose of lip service followed by very little action.I always hear horror stories about dating military guys and have met a couple awful military guys myself (violent, immature, threatened me). In the realm of military men, try to avoid the ones that get caught up in unit drama. Dating is hard because you don't always know who is a great guy and who isputting up a front. He is an individual and deserves one until he acts otherwise.I knew I wouldn’t have to deal with devastatingly long deployments at sea or constant relocation so his military service wasn’t a potential hinderance, but a celebrated past accomplishment.