You should then focus on fostering a positive relationship with the best friend so all your hard work is worth it.For as long as I could remember the rules and regulations for friendships of any gender banned the practice of dating someone’s ex. Why isn’t it okay for us to find love in our friend’s former lover?
I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.Back in the peak Disney Channel days, Miley Cyrus and Selena Gomez both had their turns of dating Nick Jonas.
As a result, each girl released her own version of angsty, teen anthems and to this day, Miley and Selena don't partake in friendly exchanges.And I probably won’t be double dating with the new happy couple either.But at the end of the day, love is love and who am I to stand in the way of someone’s happiness.If your friendship is genuine, why wouldn’t you want them to be happy? There is something to be said about releasing people energetically to live and live as they so desire.Short of an abusive ex, or a cheater – it’s really between your friend and his or her conscious to decide what’s right for their own heart.You can spend time and mental energy finding all kinds of justifications for your choices, but that’s not going to be helpful, ultimately.