Or does it all simply come down to the capriciousness of the female orgasm – since men can have an orgasm with practically anyone, they don’t much care who they’re with, whereas if a woman finds someone who’s actually good in bed she’s desperate to hang on to him?! When a man hangs out with another man, he’ll watch sports, play poker, talk trash, grab a few drinks, and maybe talk about whether he’s hooking up.
Some of the things I hate about being single are (in no particular order): lack of love, affection and emotional support; not having someone to go on vacation with; not having someone to share domestic tasks with; being excluded from social gatherings because I don’t have a partner; not having someone to talk to at home on a day to day basis; having to cope with the financial burden of being single (apartment, bills etc.); not having a regular source of quality sex available.Surely these things apply to men just as much as women?I listed the 4 main hardships expats have to overcome when dating an Indonesian girlfriend: Money: Dealing with the gap in revenues between you and your Indonesian girlfriend is not an easy task.It may not be a problem at the beginning, but soon, some issues will appear: Who needs to pay for the restaurant?Should you help her when she or a member of her family gets sick, and to what extent?
The situation faced by many expats is that they don't mind paying, because they understand that the girl cannot afford some expenses that are clearly part of the "expat lifestyle".For the plane ticket to Bali when you go on holidays?How do you arrange her coming to your home country?As I look at that list, it occurs to me that most of my clients who are perfectly content being single are satisfied with their female friendships. This is unfortunate and short-sighted because nobody dies thinking that he wishes he had a 72” Sony instead of a 64” Vizio. Women, who are, in general, more emotional and intuitive, are more likely to define their lives by their relationships.My mom, for example: she volunteers at the hospital, she tap dances in the musical at her clubhouse, she plays canasta with the girls twice a week, she does Sudoku in her garden, she’s on the party-planning committee… So when they lack a partner, they’ll be disproportionately sadder than men, who just bury themselves in more work and (sometimes) play.In other words, even if men feel the emotional need to connect, they rarely reach out to do so – with each other, with their families, and with you. Elizabeth Gilbert, in her follow-up to “Eat, Pray, Love,” called “Committed”, explores these outlandish expectations that Western women have for love – which are nothing like what women in other cultures experience.