I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.
The confusion of first-dates was disappearing altogether. I hadn’t even thought that having fun could be a part of online dating but as I grew more comfortable, I had more fun.
I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.
All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.
Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.
For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.
With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.Let’s take the example to the odds example to the meets their special someone, guaranteed.Some may meet on the first date, some may meet on the third but no one ever needs to go beyond a fifth date.Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.