We’re super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with fifty fingers instead of five.
Energetically sensitive people unknowingly avoid romantic partnership because deep down they’re afraid of getting engulfed.
The bad news is that it is difficult to find a married dating site that is discreet, safe and filled with honest and like-minded married people looking to spice up their lives.I have spent countless of hours browsing various dating sites for married people – I have been scammed, tricked and fully letdown…there are so many sites out there supposedly catering for the married but dating crowd, but how do I know that they are legitimate?Your space needs can vary with your situation, upbringing, and culture.My ideal distance to keep in public is at least an arm’s length. Sometimes it’s rapture being wrapped in his arms; later I may need to be in a room of my own, shut away.Then intimacy can flourish, even if you’ve felt suffocated before.
Prospective mates or family members may seem like emotional vampires when you don’t know how to broach the issue of personal space. You may be thrilled about your beloved until you live together. I prefer having my own bedroom/office to retreat to. One patient told her boyfriend, “I need to disappear into a quiet room for ten minutes at a party, even if I’m having fun,” a form of self-care that he supports.One empath-patient told me, “It helps explain why at thirty-two I’ve only had two serious relationships, each lasting less than a year.” Once we empaths learn to set boundaries and negotiate our energetic preferences, intimacy becomes possible.For emotional empaths to be at ease in a relationship, the traditional paradigm for coupling must be redefined.In doctors’ waiting rooms I’ll pile my purse and folders on the seats beside me to keep others away. One boyfriend who truly grasped the concept got me a “Keep Out” sign for my study door! All of us have an invisible energetic border that sets a comfort level.Identifying and communicating yours will prevent you from being bled dry by others.Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live.