You need to assure your partner that “normal” isn’t what you want, that you want him or her to be happy and healthy.
That’s a pretty hefty chunk of the dating pool, not to mention the unreported cases and the probable addition of cases since that report was published.Mental health conditions come in far too many forms—depression, suicidal tendencies, anxiety, bipolar disorder, OCD, substance abuse, addiction, eating disorders, schizophrenia, personality disorders, autism and Asperger’s, those that don’t immediately come to mind and so many layers within each of those conditions—to try to come up with a one-size fits all approach for how to deal with dating someone who is mentally ill.Instead, just continue to remind your partner of his or her best qualities.This exercise will be refreshing not only for your partner, but also for you.You will see your partner at his or her highest highs and lowest lows, maybe irrational, lethargic, erratic, manic, aloof or incoherent.
These are only a handful of the mixture of emotions and dispositions that may be found in just one condition, not to speak of an array. I can guarantee to you that your partner wishes things were different, that you didn’t have to see him or her like this.
As I alluded to before, pity is one of the worst responses to convey to your partner.
It only makes him or her feel like more of a charity case.
Still, here are a few suggestions for how to try to make it work with a significant other who is struggling, or how to let them go. Some days will be effortless, and others may be draining.
The first thing that may come to mind when you first learn of your partner’s condition is to opt out. The answer is, you’ve gotten yourself into a relationship that you now realize may have a few additional obstacles, but what relationship doesn’t experience its hurdles anyway? That really depends on the nature of the condition as well as its severity.
Although it is difficult to admit, there will be times when you question whether or not it is worth it, and it never hurts to have reminders of why you are willing to stick around.