I can't say that I know a whole lot about current site features since I was in the process of learning the (not very user friendly) layout when I got booted.Customer service was out-right accusatory when I was asking about my issues.
But women looking for/checking "casual relationships" is a red flag for being a bot/spam on many established sites. I used it a couple years ago, but my boyfriend still has his account.I wasn't necessarily referring to overt sexual sleaziness (although I got buckets of that in messages when I had the account) but the overall users seem to be..of trashier? Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 #Stencil . Bdend-1g /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr #ya-best-answer, #ya-qpage-msg, #ya-question-detail, li.ya-other-answer .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Bxsh-003-prpl #yai-q-answer, #ya-trending, #ya-related-questions h2. Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .You may or may not find the odds to be better online, so don't put all your eggs in that basket and write off the possibility of meeting someone IRL if you go that route.
You never know when someone will unexpectedly show up in your life who just fits. I think the pay sites filter out a lot of the white noise, but I can't speak to the demographics of pay sites vs free ones.
There are still cool people, but I see fewer of them than on okcupid.
But OKC definitely has a metric fuckload of sexual sleaze, so who knows.
Overall, it's pretty much a numbers game, it's all on who you can meet.
The biggest tips I can give you are to stay safe (trust your creep radar and red flags - stick to very public first/second dates) and to not take the creeps/idiots personally.
Free sites like Ok Cupid and Plenty Of Fish appeal to a wider user base and types of relationships.