Another thing to consider is that your spouse is going to love what you did for them and want to return the favor.
I know when I took dance lessons with my wife (her favorite thing to do), she was more inclined to put scuba gear on and get in the water with me (one of my favorite things to do). As you both put forth your best effort, you’ll find it will be reflected back in future dates.
It can be difficult to make time for yourself and for each other when you have children, but it’s also a great time to grow together in a new way.
Make sure to continue building your friendship and keep going on dates, which can be fun, romantic, and will keep your relationship strong.
So what does doing your partner’s favorite thing often even mean? First, think about what your spouse absolutely loves to do.
Like if everything was taken care of – house, kids, job, etc. It could be dance, art, photography, movies, reading, sports, and so on.
By learning how your spouse experiences the world, you can then tailor the date to doing exactly what they enjoy the best. About now, you’re probably thinking this is all very nice but isn’t it all a little too self-sacrificing?
After all, shouldn’t you be able to enjoy your date too?
First of all, in most cases, your partner is going to be sensitive to the fact that you’re making a strong effort to help them enjoy a date with you.
This is going to carry with it, lasting implications.
After years in a long-term relationship, it’s easy to slip into a complacent routine that’s a little too comfortable.
After all, sharing a toothbrush isn’t so sexy, and the silence you experience while the two of you are reading in bed might linger a little too long because you’ve maintained a casual text conversation all day.
The next step is to decide whether or not you’re going to tell your spouse about it or not.