What if you could effortlessly tap into endless possibilities of topics and intimacy-building questions that would not only intrigue her, but would have her feeling so seen, heard and understood, you'd have her full attention and interest, and therefore end "go-nowhere" dates for good?
When you learn to Get Her World, a simple shift of your attention lets you Dial Into Her.
And all the while she's sitting there thinking, "to you at some point, attraction is fleeting– but a REAL CONNECTION is memorable.
With your friends, or other women you're not attracted to, the doorway to your sense of humor, charisma and creativity opens automatically, like magic...
It's just that now, when it and it really COUNTS, it's not showing up. Are you destined to repeat this torturous encounter for the rest of your life ...
You get so wrapped up in your own thoughts that you aren't actually getting what she's thinking and feeling, and what she needs in order to feel genuine attraction and connection. You're frustrated by your inability to relate to her.
You're scrambling for anecdotes and the right questions to ask so you can get to know her and make a good impression.
OR is it possible that your attention simply hasn't been TRAINED to focus on what matters most? the one bending over backwards, agonizing over when or whether to text her next, and willing to move YOUR schedule around, when she's not making time or space to see you??
With each failed connection, you begin to get more and more jaded, and it seems to actually be getting harder, instead of easier, over time. The problem in both the above challenges is simple.
This is a practice of profoundly welcoming where we’re already at.
By being more richly with what’s here right now–by including this moment as deeply as possible–the inspiration for something new comes naturally.
I’ve seen firsthand how hungry the Integral community has been for more relationship practices, and I see this as a “missing piece” we’ve been looking for — I’ve heard this call repeatedly, and that’s why I’m sending you this email today.
I’ve found that those like you who are committed to living a life of Integral practice have been LOVING this.
Maybe you've rehearsed what you're going to say or what you're going to ask. She checks her watch, maybe her cell phone, and gives you that polite smile that tells you she'll be nice for the rest of the date but you're not going to see this one again. In those moments, I would just push on with the small talk, but what I REALLY wanted to do was take a SLEDGEHAMMER to that invisible fucking POLITE AND CORDIAL WALL between me and her, and SMASH IT TO PIECES...