And Lilian is not exactly describing James to be undateable.
So there is tension between Lilian and James and between me and Lilian.
So as not to introduce this discomfort, confusion, and potential jealousy into our romantic relationships, I think men and women would be wise to avoid close friendships with the opposite sex.
I consider my roommate’s fiancée a friend, but I know we should never become BFFs or hang out just the two of us.
I think men and women alike would do well to make room for a middle ground, where you can have mutually beneficial relationships with several different people—without the messiness of noncommittal intimacy.
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He’s so funny that she feels like she can talk to him about anything; he’s always there with an encouraging word.
Meanwhile, I can’t help but notice how attractive Lilian is, and I have a hard time believing that James somehow fails to notice her attractiveness.Instead of settling into intimate “just friends” relationships, I would propose that men and women casually date each other, especially when they like each other but are not sure they like each other enough to date.Hang out in groups, go on coffee or happy hour dates, hell, even be a plus one for a wedding or professional event on occasion.I believe that this kind of “I tell her everything” relationship—which the whole “Can guys and girls be just friends? If you are someone who is dating in the hopes of someday getting married, having intimate friendships with the opposite sex outside of a committed relationship is going to complicate your dating life—and, if you get through that, hurt your marriage.” debate most often refers to—is just not a good idea. Marriage requires intimacy, which is supported by physical and emotional exclusivity.But I’m fairly intentional about how I interact with them.