"All the various forms of communication have a stumbling block and because people always have their phones on them and check them all the time, you have to be careful about how you deal with texts; you don't want to look like you're waiting by the phone," says Hayley Quinn, a dating coach and writer, specialising in the arts of conversation, persuasion and seduction.
"Because we get texts quickly and easily, we become very aware if someone hasn't chosen to respond." It would seem that everyone is in need of a little help when it comes to technologically managing their love lives.
You need to be aware that there is no set formula or exact science, because there is an infinite amount of first date scenarios.And no, you are not the only one with anxiety over what texts to send after an initial date.But what does Debrett's, purveyors of all things proper, have to say about all of this?"Text messages are a rather bland form of communication," says Liz Wyse, etiquette adviser at Debrett's.The phenomenon was first reported on by The Wall Street Journal, which coined the term "bluffting": a text with a little bluffing.
Sherry Turkle, a psychologist in science, technology and society at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, told the newspaper: "It's perfect for manipulation.
Quinn is even about to launch an i Phone app for men who struggle to find the right words when texting a woman.
Users can choose from five categories (first contact, connecting, teething texts, asking-for-a-first-date texts and ping texts, which are reserved for those who want to get back in touch after a long period of absence) and will be serviced with the ideal text to send (from a pool of 25 to 30 for each category), each one being customisable, allowing you to edit the names, locations and times so you never have to worry about constructing the perfect text again.
Ezell continued, "Dating is as much a sales game as anything." His take on post-date texting is that "too much communication from one party can be intimidating." Meanwhile, April Davis, relationship expert, certified life coach, and CEO of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking, reminded us that "texting causes a lot of miscommunication and misunderstandings because it is hard to read or interpret emotion through text." Yikes!
So, what do you say, and how do you text after the first date?
If you are pursuing someone romantically you need a little bit of finesse. I've woken up with a terrible hangover: your fault!