Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details.No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.If you feel comfortable, ask your partner what he knows about HPV, and if there are any questions he still has about it.
Also, HPV is so common that almost every sexually active adult will get a strain of it at one point in their lives.No one wants to get an STI, but the reality is that you can still have a perfectly happy and exciting life inside and outside of the bedroom.Because of that, a lot of people with STIs are hesitant to inform their partners.Other people want to refuse to attend to their symptoms or acknowledge their STI status altogether.One of the best ways you can put your guy at ease is to let him share his story with you and tell him that you feel for him.
If it feels comfortable, you can ask him questions like, “how did you find out? ” He may not have had the opportunity to talk to someone about his status, so sharing with you can feel like a huge weight off his back.
It really sucks that your partner was given HPV unknowingly.
I’m not sure if his past partner knew about their status or not, but it’s a bummer either way.
You can share your sympathy with simple statements like, “I’m so sorry that happened to you” or “you didn’t deserve that.”One of the things you might learn during your research is that having an STI doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
Many STIs can be treated with a simple course of antibiotics. HPV gets a bad rap, but did you know that many strains of HPV can be completely cleared by your body without causing any ill effects?
Even people who are vigilant about practicing safe sex can wind up with a sexually transmitted infection.