Them: an insufferable cat allergy and they mostly dote on Dougal, their French bulldog.
Consider sharing your own tale first – and try and keep it cheerful!
If you’d rather not steer the conversation towards awkward moments past, look to the future and ask your date what’s on their list of things to do before they die.
What’s best is to trust your instinct; if it feels natural and you’re enjoying each other’s company, you won’t need a script.
Nonetheless, it’s good to keep a few questions in your back pocket in case the flow is interrupted.
Do not treat these blind meetings as you would a date with someone introduced by a friend.
Your objective is to find out as much as you can before you waste time and money in pursuit.When the FBI needed a plan to make their clueless, text-happy young agents better at interviews, they introduced them to one of the bureau’s veteran behavior analysts — the guy who knew all about interrogations. “We concluded if we studied the way normal people in normal life make friends, we could thin-slice that and have the agents do that in their normal lives.” Now Schafer, a Ph. who worked with the bureau for seven years as a behavior analyst, shares the tricks of the trades in his new book “The Like Switch,” co-written with management professor Marvin Karlins, Ph. Overcoming your “urban scowl” and delivering nonverbal cues, or what Schafer calls the “Big 3” friend signals (eyebrow flash, tilted head and authentic smile), tell people that you are approachable and not a threat — maybe even a friend.“The young guys would come up to me and say, ‘You old guys make it look so easy. “We are too busy focusing on ourselves and not the people we meet,” he writes.There are few topics more intimate than talking about than moments that get you scared.Sharing tales that you don’t usually reveal is also a great way to understand someone’s character and create a bond between the two of you.A first date can either be an exciting evening where you instantly connect, or an uninspiring encounter which can’t end soon enough.