Relationships are a hugely important part of our lives and whatever we can do to improve them is a good thing for everyone involved.Let’s do a quick overview of what attachment theory is.
That’s something that many of us could benefit from.When we hear the term secure attachment, our mind typically goes to a relationship. In this article I’ll discuss the concept of secure attachments in more detail and how restructuring your thoughts can help you strive towards achieving better relationships. The fact is, extroversion and introversion isn’t an either/or type of thing.We’re not closed off to meeting new people, it’s just a very exhausting thing to do. For us, we happen to be very close to the middle and even flip-flop between the two. Some of us learned to become more extroverted because we realize that the basis of human nature is grounded in interacting with each other – it’s kind of unavoidable.
It’s a spectrum and you can lie anywhere along that spectrum.Bowlby studied early childhood conditioning extensively and what he found was very interesting.His research showed that when a very young child has a strong attachment to a caregiver, it provides the child with a sense of security and foundation.This will provide a good foundation for the rest of this article.The esteemed psychologist John Bowlby first coined the term attachment theory in the late 60’s.Again, it’s not that we don’t want to go out, we just start thinking, “What if it’s not fun? We begin to draw into our own heads and make up things that could go wrong and use them as excuses to not go out. Again, we’ll happily chat someone up if the situation arises.