Because of the pressure to be a virgin, many middle-eastern girls lie, and some even get themselves sewn up (as barbaric and unnecessary as that sounds).I think that there is this perception perpetuated by parents and taught to their children generation after generation – that is based more on ideals than on reality.Obviously internet dating is a minefield of predatory men who are only after one thing. Are we non Persian girls just for dating or bedding? I am, of course, not saying that your assumptions are incorrect.
Physiologically, in adolescence we are walking sex hormones, bubbling over and barely in control.To all my more “mature” readers…come on now…think back…you can remember being exactly like that too, even if you were forced to repress these feelings and NOT act on them.Thus, a society of whispers, hear-say and superficial observation serves to keep members well-informed of each others’ social standing and eligibility.Additionally, this explicit gossip network serves to regulate the younger generation, as sons and daughters monitor and adjust themselves to make the appropriate appearance for respective families. I am British and am interested in Persian culture / language and Iran itself.
My problem is that time and again I meet men who think Oh, she’s easy because she is ‘English’ and they then revert back to marrying Persian girls. I hope that many members of our community write in and share their thoughts as well, and I hope that some of them serve to provide evidence contrary to your assumptions.We cannot do much to change these OVERgeneralizing stereotypes on a global level, but we can talk about it. I have met Iranian men who break all the molds and American women who do too.I believe that the world would be a much better place if we all approached things like children do, without superficial discrimination. I was raised in a traditional household and often felt that...Thus, daughters are potential prizes for families, who garner social status for every eligible daughter and for every lucrative marriage.The demands of marriage eligibility also enforce a stringent and theological moral code based on Rubin’s notion of sex negativity, declaring sex in and of itself as sinful unless performed in marriage.Whether or not we establish barriers (social, cultural, familial), teenagers will be teenagers and they will do what they want to do, often without our knowledge.