It’s Feeling guilty or embarrassed about who you are, deep in your core. Damaged or flawed in fundamental, irreversible ways. Your man may never admit it outright – but he wishes he were someone else. We’re stuck in this skin forever, and the hate, the self-pity – it gets us nowhere. I sought validation and distraction in women, alcohol and career moves. Low self-esteem is easy to explain yet hard to understand for some.
If you judge yourself harshly, then your mate will follow suit.
On the other hand, if you require respect, kindness, caring, and integrity in your relationship with yourself, you lay the groundwork to receive the same in your relationship with others.
We all know people whose self-esteem is so low that anyone who cares about them comes under attack for doing just that.
They're suspicious of anyone who shows interest in them because they, themselves, cannot find anything within themselves worthy of loving. You stop looking for another to validate your existence, to complete you, to fill you up to do your work for you…you start loving yourself when you believe it is completely unimaginable.
They either cannot recognize authentic love, since they have no frame of reference to which they can compare their experience, or they reject their potential partner because they cannot imagine that anyone worth having would want them.
While the old Groucho Marx joke about not wanting to be a member of any club that would have him for a member sounds amusing, there is a familiar ring to it.If you accept your mistakes, then you will be more forgiving of others' mistakes.If you learn from your own lessons, then you create room for others to learn around you. Looking into her eyes filled me with comfort and calmed my fears. I felt a constant, nearly unbearable background anxiety. My worst nightmare was being alone, in a quiet room. Maybe your man feels the same way, I pray he doesn’t. The mistakes I made led to Your man’s low self-esteem can manifest in a variety of ways. Some pull back and hide, some flee and seek experiences. But here’s the rub: When a man is dealing with low self-esteem, he’ll make mistakes. My shame and low self-esteem led me to become reckless. Luckily, there were several reliable methods: nonstop partying, irresponsible sex, starting businesses, spending lots of money, exotic traveling.If you listen to and honor your inner messages, your partner will respect your inner radar.