If you are having trouble communicating with your partner about sex, this is a sign that the relationship will be troubled in many other areas as well.
"When people describe all of their exes as terrible people and put all the blame on them for the relationship's failure, this is a red flag for me.It practically shouts: 'I cannot take any responsibility for whatever went wrong. "The mind is the most skilled Photoshopper -- it can rationalise anything and paint any picture of anyone, depending on our initial perspective. Communication is key." -- Erika Ettin, a dating coach who founded the dating site A Little Nudge 3. "Run from anyone who attempts to cross a boundary that you have set." Examples: * "You have said you do not want to go further sexually and they insist." * "You say you are not available on Sunday, but they push you to see them." * "You are not ready to have them meet your family members or friends, but they push you." * "They push you to date exclusively before you are ready." * "They want to move in or get married or set up a bank account before you want." * "They try to change the way you wear your hair or your clothes or anything else about you that feels like 'you,' and it makes you uncomfortable." -- Lisa Aronson Fontes, a psychologist who wrote the book "Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship" "When we see that somebody feels entitled to us doing more for them than what is equal in a relationship, that's a huge red flag that they are someone who uses people. Or the person says, 'Well, I can't right now,' when they're not really that busy. "If you find yourself justifying away what he does or says, even though these feel wrong in your gut, then that's a surefire red flag. "In a good relationship, a couple can and will talk through issues, listening to the other person's point of view and expressing his or her own. It's about expressing how something makes you feel and being heard. "I think [it shows] when we ask somebody for help because we're tired, or we're overwhelmed, or our plate is too full, and that person says, 'Yeah, I'll get to that,' and never does."So even if they do something bad or say something that's off, you may think, 'He's only this way because he went through X.' This is when ticking boxes of 'Is he rude to the waiter? "But underlying it, if he says things like, 'So they'll treat us better the next time,' or he has a mean mouth towards some people, and if you find yourself justifying his transactional mindset or meanness, then it's time to pause and step back. But it's how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things. "If you use somebody, you don't really care about them, or their well-being, or their overall happiness in life. It's almost like life is there to meet their needs and people are just commodities to get that done." -- Shannon Thomas, a therapist who wrote the book "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" 5. "Since red flags happen along the way road of abuse, victims see different behaviors as time and abuse goes on.
Our brains work overtime to convince us of someone who's not good for us, even when our guts know it." -- Perpetua Neo, a psychologist and expert in toxic relationships who created the Detox Your Heart program 2. "I'd say the one major red flag in a person's behavior that may indicate that the relationship won't work is the unwillingness to talk through issues, big or small. "The first thing to look for is your own intuition and listening to your gut -- if you have the feeling something is wrong, things aren't adding up, then trust that.If you prove hard to control quickly, an abuser will back off, and you will save yourself heartache." "One major red flag in relationships is when everyday life, events, conversations, and basic interactions are frequently about that person -- where there's constant manipulation and abuse of power over you."For instance, you could confront the person you're dating about something they did or said that hurt you.However, some content is frank and not appropriate for younger audiences. See our lists of other recommended Christian books and videos Other areas of interest at Christian Answers. God’s Story | Christian Spotlight on the Entertainment | Creation/Evolution | Dinosaurs | Bible Archaeology | Bible & Theology | Bible online (Web Bible) | Movie Reviews | Religion | Jesus | Family & Marriage | Social Issues & Government | TEEN Qs | Kids’ Questions | Is Jesus Christ the answer to your questions? Rather than listening to your concern and apologising, they will manipulate and flip the conversation, telling you all the things you've done to hurt and upset them.