Menopause and sex and internet dating

This will give you confidence that everything is working and that you're capable of feeling aroused.

You might also like to visit two online sex shops for women. Both of them sell a wide range of vibrators, as well as erotic literature and lubrication. Talking of lubrication, this is something you'll almost certainly need. Apparently, lesbian couples buy lube by the bucketful.

When I speak to mid-life men about what they want, they say they're looking for a warm, enthusiastic, kind and smiling woman.

They also tell me what they don't want – which is someone who moans on and on about her ex, especially on a first date.

If you are, you may want to read about the menopause.

A practical – and fun – thing you can do prior to having sex again is to get into practice by masturbating – with or without a vibrator.

And hopefully you'll fit well with your new lover and have a good time.

There are now so many mid-life, single women that the Department for Work and Pensions has given them their own acronym – SWOFTIES (single women over fifty).If you cast your mind back to before you lost your virginity, the chances are that you were anxious about it.Getting sexually active again, after a break, can feel equally nerve-racking. Basically the act hasn't changed since you last did it!It's only heterosexual women who feel embarrassed that they need this kind of help. So, treat yourself to something lovely, like the ever-popular Liquid Silk.If you find that ordinary lubricants are not enough, you might want to discuss this problem with your doctor or practice nurse. This is something you need to discuss with your GP.And this can make the idea of dating again rather daunting.