Then, my excitement afterward reminded him of the "spark plug" he fell in love with.
As for me, I never would have attempted it without him, and it reminded me of how often I rely on him, and the fact that he always holds me up. Each time we tried something (the fencing was next) we came away amused at ourselves and at the situation.
At the Dragon Coaster the line was long, and I got more and more petrified as I heard the screams and screeching of the cars on the rail.
But when you do things together as a couple, you can't avoid thinking about your partner while it's going on. But like any couple married for a long time, we were in a routine: Go out with some friends. Just planning these dates can give you something to discuss." So, armed with the information I'd learned from Dr. He snapped back at me for being impatient, and that was the end of conversation. The place we picked was ultra-hip and the food was delicious.You get an excited, good feeling when you do these fun things, and yourpartner is associated with it. And it can be very positive for your marriage." In other words, when you have fun with your spouse, you begin to think of him as fun. Aron, David and I decided to conduct our own dating experiment. David didn't notice I had gotten dressed up—he was busy being annoyed that, as usual, I was running late. I was chatting on about a friend's work situation (which I thought was interesting) when David finished my sentence for me, assuming he knew what I was going to say. We didn't speak again until 30 minutes later, when we arrived at dinner. After 30 minutes together in this cool space, I was cooler, too.The car clacked upward and I gripped the safety bar with all my strength. The first drop was nothing, but then the track rose again and the next hill was…thrilling!The whole ride lasted less than three minutes, but I loved it!Heading home after the show, I realized that the whole evening had passed without us talking about the kids.
Instead, all of our senses had been stimulated, especially our sense of touch—so much hand holding turned into arm holding turned into shoulder bumping…well, you get the rest.Well, OK, it was really around the sternum, and he was wearing protective clothing. Fencing is about the furthest thing from what we'd normally do, but after 21 years of marriage, we were looking for ways to "bring novelty" into our relationship.Recent studies have shown that having a regular date night is not enough to get couples out of their non-romantic ruts.On a theater website I scored tickets for an off-off-Broadway show. I slipped my hand in his, and soon we were imagining what kind of party we'd throw there if we could.He apologized for interrupting me, and as we walked hand in hand to the theater, we saw and heard more interesting people and unusual conversations in 10 minutes than we do in 10 days of our suburban life.According to Arthur Aron, Ph D, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University, going on interesting dates is good for a marriage.