By promoting traditional gender roles or only allowing users to identify as cisgender, virtual dating platforms make it easy for straight people to navigate the dating world, but not necessarily everyone else.
"How a queer person relates to gender as a structure is probably different to how a straight person does," Sara opined.
Mainstream apps like Tinder don't serve the queer population very well, from poor filtering to the lack of nuanced categories."There often isn't a category for genderqueer individuals, for example, and the codified structure of these apps tend to be more heteronormative," These labels help gay women navigate the dating world, but they're noticeably absent on apps like Tinder.Lesbian women on Tinder also constantly face the ever-pleasant "Hi, sexy... " ," such comparisons are apples and oranges, given the vast cultural differences between the gay and lesbian communities.For gay people, New York City offers many speed dating options, with more (and more compartmentalized) choices arriving all the time.In September 2010, Los Angeles group LA Lords sold out both sessions of its first foray into the New York gay speed dating market, and in November, the LGBT Community Center hosted its first Lesbians of Color Speed Dating night.You then tell the organizers who you'd like to go out with again, and if the feeling is mutual, you and your new sweetie can be off on your next (and presumably more intimate) date.
Qwik Dates nights are generally themed (like the recent Boyfriend Material: Arts-Oriented Men) or broken down by age.Hosted by onspeeddating.com, this power mixer hooks up feminine lesbian attendees with 10 to 25 others for quick-fire meet-ups."If Portia De Rossi, Lindsay Lohan, Kristanna Loken, Drew Barrymore and Megan Fox do it for you," say they, "then this is the speed dating event for you." The group also sporadically puts on other LGBT speed date events like Lesbian Hot or Not, Mr."Women aren't looking for a ' Hot or Not'," Her founder Robyn Exton are overwhelmingly straight, male and white, meaning there are still few options for anyone who doesn't fit into those categories."Above all, there's a universality of a heteronormative dating experience" on apps, Sara told .Over the last two years, we’ve seen a few new additions, most notably Find Femmes and Compatible Partners.