Intimacy is mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.
If one of these pillars is missing, then so is the intimacy; it’s condemned.
It is unacceptable when the contents of his closet no longer live on hangers, empty food packages are laying around the house or under the couch, and you need a hazmat suit to go into the bathroom. He has to decide to take the reins of the wild stallion that is his mind, and when and if he does, it is a beautiful thing.
If you ever live together, you will be his maid and you will resent him. When a man keeps clean, it is equivalent to a full day of foreplay. Someone who leaves, is not the someone you want to rely on when you really need them to show up.
They only call for a ‘favor,’ and the pervasive conversations they do have are of burning nostalgia for the epic parties they threw back in college.
If he does have friends, pay attention to their interactions. Do they talk about meaningful subjects other than sports, girls, cars or money? It is completely acceptable to have a dish in the sink or a shirt on the bed.
First, there must be an acknowledgment by the person—an unearthing of the origination of the action, .
The root of these behaviors is fear and the dirt of unawareness.I wish relationships had a preview button like i Tunes, but they don’t.So, the best we can do is equip ourselves with clarity—what we want and what we don’t want.Don’t let him fool you with his New Agey-spiritual bullsh*t: “I live in the moment, who knows what will be in an hour, a day or a week.” What will be?He will still be spewing the same line a week from now, a month from now, and you will have gray hair.You include him in every part of your life, yet he rarely, if ever invites you into any facet of his life.