an alignment of values and standards) to see something more serious happening in the long-term.The first thing to remember is that it doesn’t make a guy a bad guy just because he doesn’t want a relationship.Moreover, you have to watch out for those guys who actually enjoy the validation of the Friend Trap and stay there on purpose, enjoying your attention but never really making their move.
In the Get The Guy book Matt and I used the term ‘Perceived Value’ which might be a better way to think of Respect in this context. It can be: These are just a few things that will cross a guy’s mind when he thinks about a relationship, and if he doesn’t imagine them happening then he’ll place a girl in the Friends-With-Benefits Zone.It’s the place where he likes the girl, he’s attracted, but he doesn’t feel enough Connection and Respect (i.e.(Photo: Education Dynamics) You know you’re in The Maybe Zone when friends repeatedly see you with a man and ask inquiringly: “Are you guys a couple?” And your response is to shrug your shoulders and say: “I’m not sure really”, or even just “I’d like to be!Respect isn’t inherently linked to sex, and unless he’s of a very antiquated and out-dated mentality, he’s not going to judge you for having sex with him outside a relationship.
Respect in this scenario is linked to other things.
A guy might put one girl in the Friends-With-Benefits Trap, whilst for another girl he gets down on his knees and begs for her to be his girlfriend.
Likewise, with the Friends Trap, just because he’s not into you physically doesn’t make him a jerk.
This is article #34 to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen.
Steve helped co-write the Get The Guy book and is a wealth of knowledge on dating and relationships.
Just recognise it for what it is and spot the signs of a guy not moving anything forward either emotionally or physically.