Or are you just trying to maintain the relationship as it stands now, perhaps in a different place?
My boyfriend and I have been friends for 4 years, and have only been in a LDR for a couple of months. most of the time it's easier to be afraid and lonely than happy.But we work hard at keeping our relationship and he is planning to finally visit despite his worries about flying.Building a new relationship is a whole lot harder than maintaining an existing one.The easiest one to weather is the temporary shift – if you're committed to the relationship, you just have to figure out a way to survive six difficult months. You can ease a lot of long-term discomfort and confusion by defining your expectations in advance.But you may be surprised how much a relationship can grow – if you work at it.
Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.Remember this: if you can't openly discuss your feelings about how you're spending money, you'll have a hard time building a long-term relationship with this person.Keep in mind that the tensions that arise now are opportunities to strengthen your relationship for the future.and I was sure he'd been hit by a bus and that's why he couldn't get to the phone. What had actually happened was that the nine-hour time difference got in the way. Remember this: missing a day (36 hours in my case) does not indicate relationshipial jeopardy.He was in Israel and I was in the States and he somehow thought that calling at 3 a.m. If a phone call gets missed or an e-mail doesn't arrive, do not assume that your darling has run off with the cleaning lady or been hijacked. It's likely that one partner will need more communication more than the other. If you want more contact than your partner, try to be less demanding.But simple companionship and connectedness is often the meat and bones of a relationship – and you still have to prepare yourself for the absence of his or her warmth, smile and all the wonders of non-verbal communication.