This means fabricating, distorting, assigning significance to, or exaggerating what you said or did as ‘evidence’, and / or quoting third party allies which can also be fabricated.
In regard to love relationships – in many cases, when you met the narcissist, he or she could not seem happier with you.
You were put on a pedestal, and were told all the reasons why you were Of course you weren’t the narcissist’s saviour – no-one can be.
At this point the ‘adoring’ person you believed was in love with you becomes your worst enemy and nightmare – saying or doing almost anything possible to maliciously hurt you.
Understandably you will be shocked, reeling and incredibly distraught because the behaviour the narcissist employs is incredibly pathological, cruel, without remorse and can be assessed as will leave the narcissist at this point – no matter how much it hurts to.
Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert.
She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program.
The narcissist (like everyone) was never going to feel genuinely valued, safe, approved of and loved by anyone but him or herself.
Because authentic feelings about ‘self’ Sooner or later the narcissist’s False Self is not appeased enough.
Melanie's healing and teaching methods have liberated thousands of people from the effects of narcissistic abuse world-wide.
One of the most painful parts about a relationship with a narcissist is the accusations and ‘labels’ the narcissist puts on you.
It is the same False Self (ego) which tries so hard to be approved of, which when not being sustained by ‘the outside’ constantly (a necessity because it is not self-sustaining) becomes pathological and vengeful and behaves atrociously.