But when struggling to do something, such as find a job, it is important to know what your chances are, so that you do not become demoralized after repeated disappointments. They do not mean that such efforts are doomed to failure.Studies show that of those submitting resumes in response to an advertised job opening, only two percent will receive an invitation to visit the prospective employer!
Still, this arrangement worked out well enough for us to have showed up very many generations later. If the first half-dozen first dates are unsuccessful, it does not mean that you are unappealing or that you are too picky.
Unless you are extraordinarily lucky, the first ten or twenty people you meet—or thirty or forty—are not likely to constitute a good fit to you.
Most people who reach these objectives only do so after repeated attempts. They never have to deal with the awful feelings of unrequited love.
They have never been jilted or disappointed over and over again by meeting one unsatisfactory person after another.
If you look at ten or twenty houses in a week or so—which is possible—you can find that house pretty soon. I think everyone should always be looking for a new job, in case a better job shows up unpredictably, as they do from time to time. Interviewing requires putting yourself up for someone else’s approval, or disapproval.
Most of the time interviews are not followed by a job offer.If the chance of success is only two percent, the odds begin to favor the applicant if he/she responds to four or five hundred job possibilities.The problems inherent in this process are two: it is difficult to find four or five hundred job possibilities, and This same process of pursuing statistically unlikely opportunities is required for success in many endeavors, for example, publishing a novel, or trying out for a professional sports team, or leading a successful rock band. Some young men and women meet in high school; and sometime later, perhaps years later, they marry.Mammals and birds, and other animals have to win the attention of a possible mate. They make the following objections, which I have described in a previous post and in a somewhat different context: Meeting strangers is potentially dangerous. Meeting people through the agency of these dating sites is no more or less dangerous than meeting them any other way.In prehistoric times, individuals probably had to choose from only a half-dozen or so potential partners. An argument for internet dating: We have now, in the time of the internet, an inestimably huge number of potential mates, or to put it in the current vernacular, dates. Presenting oneself publicly as wishing to meet someone suggests, in the minds of some people, that such a person is driven to dating this way because he/she is unsuccessful dating in a more conventional way. Patients whom I have known who date successfully are largely inclined to date people they meet in all sorts of places, church, work, parties, and so on—It is important to realize and accept that any single dating opportunity is not likely to result in a long-term relationship, SO YOU MUST NOT BECOME DISCOURAGED BECAUSE OF REPEATED FAILURES.But even then there must have been some choice involved.