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When I took it personally, I assumed he wanted to see other people because I wasn’t enough. I’ve come to understand that if a relationship doesn’t work out the way you want, or a guy you like doesn’t ask you out again, or your partner criticizes you, it’s not personal. The “It’s not you, it’s me” guy just wanted to see other women, which wasn’t personal against me.
He loved camping in the wilderness and may have wanted a woman who loves this too.
Instead, express yourself in a way that helps the other person open up so they are more willing to help you understand what is really going on.
In the case of the “It’s not you, it’s me” guy, I could have said, “I’m imagining that you want to see other women because I’m not enough for you…”, then waited to hear his response.
You’ll also create a safe space for your date or partner to express himself more openly with you.
As a result, you’ll both have a more meaningful connection with each other. For more dating and relationship support, join Love for Successful Women’s Google Plus Community and get answers to your questions about love.
Then interpret it in a positive way that is as true or truer than your original interpretation.
If you have a hard time interpreting the situation in a positive way, don’t make assumptions.
Reacting is an automatic response, based on what the other person says or does. It’s about noticing the story you’re telling yourself and if it’s making you feel bad, choosing to interpret things differently.