But, is it OK to be honest about dating with my child?--Carol, 34, New Haven, Connecticut Solution: Just like you're not lying about having a kid to your date -- don't lie about having a date to your kid.I'm anxious to note I have a kid because I don't want to scare guys away. --Ashley, 28, Winter Garden, Florida Solution: You're teaching your kids not to lie, right? "If you're going to send mixed or false signals, there's no point in shooting the flare gun up at all.
Embrace that nervous energy, those sweaty palms and the knots in your stomach, because they're all signs you're taking a positive step forward to try something new in your life. If the father of my child didn't like me enough to stay around, what makes me think a guy who has no biological connection to my child will?You have to step out on a limb sometimes -- that's where all the fruit is." To put things in greater perspective, think about all of the things you've managed as a single parent: middle-of-the-night illness, potty training, getting the bills paid. --Tia, 34, New York, New York Solution: "It's so completely understandable that you feel insecure for this reason, but the decision by the father of your child to leave was his, not yours -- and a choice that big cannot boil down to something as simple as 'not liking you enough.' "Whatever his reasons were, they were his reasons, his issues, and his problems, not yours."It is important to not introduce your kids to every person you go on two or three dates with. When kids are introduced to someone 'special,' they assume it actually means something and then if the person disappears, this shifts their whole belief system," says Ledley.This doesn't mean you can't ever introduce your child to Mr.Read on as single parents share their dating dilemmas and Amy Spencer, relationship expert and author of "Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match" solves them. How can I meet a guy when I don't really go out to the bars or clubs anymore?
--Renee, 30, Totowa, New Jersey Solution: Spencer says to rethink that afternoon of fun.
But then, use the rest of the space to talk about nothing but you.
This is the one area of your life that isn't about what your child wants, but about what you want." For example, tell potential suitors what books you like to read (this is an Elmo-free zone), latest movie you saw (Don't you dare say Toy Story), what food you like to cook (chicken nuggets don't count even if you prepare them every, single day!
)." Bottom line: If things work out, then you can start gushing about your little one and eventually let your date see for his- or herself. Problem: My daughter is twelve years old and I want to be honest with her when it comes to leaving her with a sitter to go out.
In other words, if I'm going on a date, I don't want to tell her I have a work obligation.
(Parenting.com) -- You've mastered the playdate, but now it's time for the date-date.